Introduction To BDSM Session

Not long ago, a movie inspired by a well-known best seller was released , known for explicitly addressing BDSM session practices. Personally, neither the book nor the movie caught my attention. However, I acknowledge and applaud the fact that they have been able to bring the underground world of BDSM to the mainstream . This means that the world view towards 'unconventional' sexual practices is going to change. Therefore, many people of different sexual orientations are trying and experimenting with their sexuality and allowing themselves to enjoy the pleasures associated with BDSM.

Many will wonder what BDSM session means , this is the acronym that is used to refer to a set of conventional sexual practices that are not so accepted. Among these practices are Bondage , Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism. Unlike vanilla sex and its many, many sexual positions - which become routine after a certain time - the world of unconventional practices is governed under a much stricter and more rigorous system of how sexual sessions take place: manages a security code that must be respected in each of the sessions. Security, good sense and consent are the principles that govern the practice and exercise of BDSM.

The bondage is mainly tying or being tied to achieve sexual enjoyment . In addition, it has an artistic-aesthetic character and is not always associated with the sexual act -if we understand sexual act as penetration-. The most common in this practice is tying by ropes, but handcuffs, fabrics, gagging or blindfolding are quite frequent and very exciting alternatives. Practicing bondage requires a certain level of experience. It is not right for inexperienced people to carry out maneuvers that could be harmful if they go wrong.

Discipline is the set of sexual practices that seek sexual pleasure BDSM session through flogging. We need to understand that flogging in this context is exclusively sexual. This peculiar practice implies, many times, the use of whips, belts, palmetas, floggers to carry out spanking (whipping). There are many who prefer to use the traditional hand.

Dominance and submission (D / s) are complements when it comes to sexual control and dominance over the other person (there is not necessarily the presence of pain as a sexual stimulant). I consider it important to point out that the sexual role does not determine the role in D / s practices, that is, there are active gay men who are submissive, and passive men who are dominant (Power Bottom). Just as there is the figure of the versatile in the active and passive classification, there is the term switch to define the man or woman who likes to exercise the dominant and submissive role.

Finally, Sadomasochism (S&M) is the relationship between sadism and masochism. Sadism is obtaining sexual pleasure by generating pain , discomfort or humiliating the masochist, who obtains sexual pleasure after pain or humiliation and, furthermore, has consented to this type of practice. S&M practices can range from simple bites, cigarette or wax burns to controlled suffocation.

There may be many people, inside and outside the LGBT community, who will not agree with this vision little bitThere is nothing traditional about human sexuality, but it is not their job to question this lifestyle. They only have respect . You must remember that relationships within this taboo world are based on explicit consent and a desire to practice the many variations of BDSM.

What do I recommend before entering the exciting world of Bondage, discipline, Dominance / submission and sadomasochism? The essential requirements are to keep an open mind and know your limits: not all of us have the same pain threshold. In addition, doing these practices with someone requires a certain level of trust with this other person, which is why it is highly recommended It is mandatory that your master or your slave are trustworthy people and that they know how to respect the pre-established limits.

Contract

Another of the BDSM session principles is consent. On this Petra comments that obviously nothing is going to be forced, no relationship, nothing that is done, is forced and Octavio adds Being submissive accepts to be spanked in the back, whipped in the buttocks, slapped, or tells me, I I do not accept and do not sign that contract. You can't make her be with you. This gives us to understand that this contract is a deliberate and discussed agreement, where previous experiences, specific tastes and the limits of each one are put on the table. Even, according to some participants, it may be similar to the agreement that conventional couples make before having sexAn agreement, such as, like when at some point you are with someone and you are dating and suddenly they decide someday to have relationships because, it works as it is, the difference is that the relationship is going to be with certain activities (Xavier) .

This agreement can be discussed before starting the practice as such, so before reaching a session one must talk a lot with, there must be a lot of conversation between the two, to see what you like, what you do not like, what I like, what I don't like it (Pascal). For most practitioners and as revised in theory, the agreement should always be discussed, however; For two of the interviewees, there may be no previous agreements on the limits, Ida refers there was never as a proposal of ... Would you like to do this? Such a thing, but as she took control of everything, she did everything and Alejandro states that when they do not talk, they are groping little by littleAnd well, that, when you generally do not have that mutual agreement, is like feeling around the area. Suddenly ... well, having sex you bite the person and see how they react ... one at least sees what things they like or ... that they don't, and one just goes to the point where ... that person says' No, already goes'

Taking this into account, we consider the possibility that BDSM practitioners are more aware of what they seek and expect, in relation to non-practitioners, since they tend to establish greater communication in their relationships, since they must express their wishes in advance, fears and expectations, which could result in the development of a greater depth in the bond of these couples. This may be related to what Elisa expressed, they are more intense, you see a BDSM session couple that has been 6 months and you see how they interact and you swear that they have been together for 5 years… I know couples who have a level of interaction and treatment that is, uh, couples who are years old …